Please
understand that I love what I do. I
absolutely love that I’m a dream-chaser.
I love performing. I love writing
and entertaining. I really do. I love that I am a believer. I love knowing that the sky is my only
limit. Whew! What a feeling!
But last
night I was taken to a place. I was
taken to a place that made me want to act a straight up fool. I attended a casting panel discussion, and as
always at those kinds of things there are more than a couple wide-eyed newbies
hoping to get the secret to success.
Hoping and praying to God that mega knowledge will get dropped and they
will leave the event ten steps closer to superstardom. Is it possible? Absolutely, because I believe anything is possible. But to the wide-eyed hopefuls I would first
say, “Know who you are and know your worth.”
As opposed to
being concerned with:
-- Do I join
SAG or don’t I?
-- Is my hair
the right length?
-- I have a
lot of story ideas but I’m not sure how to proceed.
-- I don’t
want to be type-cast.
Can I just
please ask you to stop? Please. Here’s my advice to you: figure out what you want, and get very
specific with your answer. “I want to be
famous,” won’t suffice. What do you
WANT? To get a novel published? To land a spot on a sitcom? To land a national commercial? To land a Broadway role? To become a staff writer for network or cable
TV? To have your music featured in a
major film? What do you WANT? And take some time to figure it out because I
want you to get needle-point specific with this thing. Yes – split hairs. Yes – get down to the minute details of it. Be able to declare it in a single sentence
and make certain that’s a sentence that speaks clearly to all – even those that
don’t work in your field. Get specific.
Once you know
exactly what you want, I need to know who you are and what you’re bringing to
the table. And it’s not so much that I
have to know; more so that I need YOU to know.
Get very clear here. Who are you
as it relates to the “what” that you want?
If you want to be a master painter are you at least a so-so painter
right now? If you aim to be a restaurateur
are you bringing to the table an impeccable palate? Who are you and what are you bringing to the
table – as it relates to your ultimate goal?
Define those things and again, get very specific. Go ahead and put pen to paper and make a list
that you can see with your own eyes. Study
that list. Highlight your strengths and
take note of the areas where you need improvement. And then get excited because no matter how
much improvement you need, you’re now closer than you think. You can now have an intelligent conversation
with anyone about what you’re trying to accomplish and you will sound much more
learned and confident now that you’ve defined these things for yourself. They may or may not be able to directly
assist you on your journey, but you will leave a positive impact as opposed to
being a passing thought. And at the end
of the day that’s what we all want…to be remembered – positively. And that’s an energy you have the power to
create for yourself.
Take this
post for nothing. Take it for
everything. But you will never get
anywhere without first knowing who you are and what exactly you’re bringing to
the table. Trust me; they can all smell
your fear and desperation a mile away.
If you do nothing else you had better stand up straight and “act as if,”
because nobody wants to help someone that appears to not know where they’re
going.
My name is
Jasmynne Shaye, and this is me STEPPING ON A FEW TOES.
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