Oh my
goodness. Forgiveness. It’s so freakin’ necessary. A friend of mine just shared a life lesson
with me and I think it finally clicked for the first time. Here’s a synop of what he said…
“I cannot
judge another. I am incapable of judging
another because, no matter how much I know, or how much I think I know, I will
never have all the facts. And without
all the facts there is no way you can make a proper judgment. And since I’m unable to judge, I cannot
condemn another. I just can’t.”
He went on to
say that once he understood his inability to judge that freed him to be able to
quickly forgive the other person. And
once he forgave he had to let go. So
let’s look at a scenario…
You get
wronged by your best friend of fifteen years.
You swear you know this person inside and out, yet they outright stabbed
you in the back or hurt you in the worst way possible. You’re human.
It leaves you hurt, angry, disappointed, sad, bothered, and
vengeful. And even though you want to
haul off and beat the snot out of your so-called friend, I’m offering you
another option. Even though you’ve been
friends for fifteen years, you still don’t have all the facts about who they
are. No one does, and no one ever
will. It is impossible for you to truly
understand why they did what they did.
Right or wrong…you just don’t know.
And because you don’t know you can’t make a clear judgment. And because you can’t make a clear judgment,
you can’t condemn. You just can’t. What I am suggesting you do is forgive. And do it fast. Sincerely forgive them for hurting you and
release it. You CANNOT continue to hold
it over their head because in doing so, you’re holding yourself back. There’s a book called, “You Can’t Steal
Second With Your Foot On First.” It’s
the same principle. If you’re continuing
to remind them at every turn about the infraction they committed against you
when you guys were in college – you’re stuck!
You haven’t moved on! Life is
passing you by and your greatest accomplishment is keeping tallies on everyone
that’s wronged you. Whoop-dee-doo. Aren’t you fancy?? Come on, man.
Get over yourself! It’s not that
serious, and you’re missing out on your own life. They’re living; you’re not, and you’re
hurting yourself. What a shame. You’re missing out on so much of life’s
goodness because you choose to spend the bulk of your time keeping score. Who the hell really cares? I mean, really? Who the hell cares? They messed up. You can either choose to keep them in your
life or toss them aside. If you choose
to maintain the friendship/relationship – you’ve GOT to let it go. Trust me on this one.
Forgive. Let go.
Move on.
My name is
Jasmynne Shaye, and this is me STEPPING
ON A FEW TOES.
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