I
heard a song lyric the other day that said, “Now you’re just somebody that I
used to know.” I heard it, pulled my car
over, located pen and paper, and I wrote it down. Who knows (I’m sure someone knows) what the
song title is or who sings it, but they have never spoken truer words with that
statement.
I’m
gonna keep this one short today as I have much to get done, but I do want to
make sure I get this point across.
We
aren’t meant to take every friend and acquaintance with us on our life’s
journey. There is such a thing as
seasons, and sometimes folks are only meant to be in our lives for a season. Perhaps they came into our life to teach us a
lesson. Maybe we crossed their path because
they held the answer to a question that had been plaguing us. There are even times when we need to meet
them in order to learn more about ourselves.
It could even be a situation where our relationship with them got us one
(or two) steps closer to a major goal.
The reasons are many, and it’s usually not until the friendship has dissolved
that we begin to realize the purpose of that relationship. But I can promise you this: if you try to hang on to someone longer than
you are meant to, it can quickly turn disastrous and it’ll leave you scratching
your head wondering what in God’s name has happened to this once happy
union. Now the smell of sour grapes is
thick in the air and it’s trying to tell you that the change of seasons has
come and that person’s time is up in your life.
And sometimes it hurts like hell because that season may have stretched
across decades and you can’t make it make any sense. You were certain this was someone that you’d
be growing old with, but the universe has different plans for you. And in order for you to reach your full
potential, you will eventually have to take heed to the messages you’re being
sent.
And
I would be lying if I were to say that these are easy messages to respond
to. They aren’t, and most will go through
life ignoring them – but nothing good comes from that. What was once a fun, energetic, inspiring
relationship over time will turn spiteful, hurtful, and dishonest. It’s just not good. Where the two of you may have been able to
let nature run its course and naturally drift apart, now the both of you are
fuming angry and things have gotten ugly.
If you can help it, you never want things to go that far because one or
both of you may end up saying things out of anger – things that you may later
regret. It’s always best, but not always
easy, to part ways the moment you recognize the season is changing. And you may not always know right away, but
you will ALWAYS know, and don’t feel bad when you find yourself saying, “Now
you’re just somebody that I used to know.”
It’s not a bad thing. It’s a very
necessary part of life to get from point A to point Z.
I don’t care where you live, it may be subtle, but the seasons always
change. Our personal relationships are
no different.
My
name is Jasmynne Shaye, and this is me STEPPING
ON A FEW TOES.
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